Thursday, December 19, 2013

Parental Separation Anxiety

Maternal separation anxiety is experienced when a mother besieged the feeling of guilt at the thought of a short-term separation with her kid. Who says that separation anxiety is just for kids? It is in fact that a lot of us parents have this feeling of acutely nervous when our child begins school or leaves the house.

My girls.. Whom I can't seem to live without.. 


At times, we parents worry about our child’s adjustment or simply just missing spending time with him/her. This feeling is completely normal, and the good thing is that there are certain ways we can alleviate our stress when our child is away.

Staying busy by filling up your hours or even days with activities that requires mobility can help you forget about the separation.
Enjoy your time alone. Becoming a parent deprives you of your “me-time”. Now is the chance to pamper yourself while you child is away. Do the yoga, go on a spa, and watch a movie with your husband, bond with your girl friends.
Don’t make your child feel guilty of leaving you. Show a positive attitude. Parental separation anxiety can transfer to the children and tends contribute to their anxiety too. 


Be enthusiastic and be proud of your child’s activities.

28 comments:

Justin Buenagua said...

definitely agree with the last line.. it's all about encouragement and empowerment.. :)

Fernando Lachica said...

It's up to you as adult to overcome parental lifestyle and the values that you must inject to your children while they're growing up. Separation is just normal.

papaleng said...

I agree, oftentimes naka-revolve na lang ang life natin as parents to our kids. At times we forgot to have our 'selfie time'. Yes, every parent undergoes that separation anxiety if our kids are out of the house for the first time, but there are things to do para makalimutan muna natin ang stage na ito.

Wanderer Juan said...

I don't have kids yet or don't plan on having any anytime soon, but these are great tips for parents.

Lady Patchy said...

Psychology, my favorite subject. I always miss my kids whenever they are in school but what can we do, just do something to get away with this mom separation anxiety coz the kids surely enjoys school.

Monnel Espiritu said...

I remember my Mom. Now living away from home. I miss her. I just don't know if she's proud of what I'm doing.

leira said...

as a mommy i think its normal to feel separation anxiety.. I felt that when my daughter when to preschool. I just didn't show it as I felt that It wouldn't help at all, So by the time she went to big school she was well adjusted no separation anxiety at all

Teresa Martinez said...

Even if my youngest is already 9 years old and many of her school activities are done specifically without the presence of us parents, I still feel this separation anxiety especially when the activity involves going beyond the school walls like field trips and the like.

Gil Camporazo said...

Kids may be deprived of her independence and social development if he/she is over protected. It is byt natural for a parent to get upset or develop anxiety for the absence of her kid. But she should be reasonable enough.

Franc said...

It's really a phase in letting them go on their own and take their own risks.

GossipMoms said...

I went through AS when my kids went to visit their grandmother for a weekend, & I about went insane not hearing their voice running around the house, fighting over toys, I even got up to cook breakfast for the kids & realized they were not home, so yea I fell you on this.

Elizabeth WaterRollsUphill said...

I think this is more a cultural issue at this point. Women are made to feel guilty for working full time away from their kids, or for being a SAHM and not spending every minute with their kids. Can't win.

Cara Kueck said...

I'm 28 and my mother still has a little seperation anxiety. But we are really close. This is great info and thanks for sharing!

KLPMiller said...

Its true! Moms can get separation anxiety too- it doesnt stop when they are little either. I have a chronically ill child and I feel the same way...

mystickitchen said...

My kids had this when I would leave them at daycare.. thankfully they grew out of it! thanks for sharing!

MaryJane Tauyan said...

i had this feeling before when i first left my daughter in her school. i sent her to school for a week before coz i was to scared for her to ride the school van. No its all fine. showing a positive attitude to the child indeed helps a lot!

Corinne Schmitt said...

I never knew there was a name for this, but I have definitely experienced it! As moms, I think we tend to feel guilty if we manage to have fun WITHOUT our children. I'm glad that you advise moms to appreciate their me-time.

Rochkirstin Santos said...

Aww I remember my office mate who had just given birth, after reading this post. She is working 10 hours a day and far from home 12 hours including commute. So she spends little time with her baby.

Shannon Wijnker said...

I love my daughters - but I totally want to enjoy my "me-time!" The kids will only get emotional if you do as well. They take their cues from you.

Genzel Kisses said...

It's really hard to be separated from parents. I don't know but as far as I remember, I was so excited to be in school when I was a kid and didn't mind if I go alone to school via school service :D

Aio Kona said...

I feel you. I worked overseas for two years and had to leave my children with my mom. I was very very depressed and i wanted to take the next plane home. I guess my mom did a good job keeping my kids focused on life and they grew up to be responsible adults. I never did leave them after that two year job abroad. Family is all that matters to me.

Rubbie Anne Abad said...

They are so cute! I don't have a baby sister or brother so im into babies!!! Hihihi cute babies are cute

Lilibeth said...

It is really normal to feel that way---parents, specially moms, spent so much time taking care of the kids and when the time comes that they have to leave the house, they couldn't help but worry. But at the end of the day, we know that these kids will come home and share how their day went and what they have learned. :)

Paula Bendfeldt-Diaz said...

I remember when I had to put my daughter in daycare so I could go back to work. It was so tough. Keeping busy really helped but I would rush to see her every day for lunch break. It did get better and I did realize it was harder for me than for her. :)

Sheila said...

I have two kids and they're both in school now. it feels different when your kids start school already and for the very long time it feel so quiet in the house and you realize that your kids are growing.

Charisse Murray said...

this is definitely a real thing. when i had my baby 7.5 months ago when i went back to work i would cry at work.

Lance Fernandez said...

While we can't always be together, we should make the most of every moment that we spend with our loved ones.

Yamito Uytingco Calamba said...

i don't have kids yet, at least ones on my own, but my sister does and i get the same anxiety attack everytime i have to be somewhere else. which is why i keep a photo of her in my other phone. haha :)