Saturday, August 23, 2014

3 Ways to Maintain a Happy, Long-Lasting Marriage

Wise words from a wise man.


Jeff Bridges has been married to his wife Susan for nearly four decades, all while working in an industry known for its failed marriages: Hollywood.

So it makes sense that Thursday, while doing a Reddit Ask Me Anything, the Academy Award winner was questioned about his secret to marital success. "I read that you've been married to your wife since 1977. To what do you attribute the success of your marriage in an industry notoriously hard on relationships?" the redditor asked.

In response, Bridges revealed three ways to maintain a happy, long-lasting marriage.

1. Loving someone means supporting them.

"This industry is tough on relationships. I've always thought that my wife should have a credit up alongside mine, because I couldn't do what I do without her support. And like the questioner asked, or said, we've been married since 1977, we knew each other for 2 years before that, so she's been able to do all these films with me and we've managed to get through them all together."

2. Little things, like asking how their day was, matter.

"The toughest thing about making movies is being apart from your family. One of the things I try my best to do is call my wife every day, to keep up to speed with what's going on in her life. And tell her what's going on with mine. Often when you're apart from your loved one like that for so long, your connection kind of atrophies unless you keep engaged, even if it's small everyday kind of stuff."

3. Above all else, love each other.

"But another aspect of keeping a marriage together, I think it's important to - you'll think I'm silly - but to love each other, which begs the question: "what is love?" Words that come to mind are openness, understanding, gentleness, kindness, and kind of working on those things, because everyone has a light and a dark side, I think, selfish aspects, and to kind of recognize those in each other and realize that we are going to have our own particular story at any given time, and those stories, they might not be the ultimate truth but they are certainly true for each of us, so to understand that we are each going through our particular version of reality, to respect that, and to nurture being in love, you know? To nurture that."

#WordsOfWisdom #Marriage #HappyLife

27 comments:

Masshole Mommy said...

Great advice. With my husband and me, our key is communicating. As long as we talk things out, we stay on track!

mail4rosey said...

This is a good post. Marriage is hard work but it's got awesome lifelong benefits. :)

Ben Butler said...

Great post. It's the little things that really keep a long term relationship going.

Ben Butler said...

Ain't that the truth. I think the reason so many relationships fall apart is lack of communication. Non-communication is the relationship killer, in my opinion.

Fokeet said...

Absolutely! This is a great list of things to keep in mind.

Franc said...

Another important thing is compromise. There should always be balance in everything so every body grows in a relationship.

Miriam Schulman said...

i have been married for over 20 years and a sense of humor, forgiveness and great sex and my three secrets.

Kung Phoo said...

That is a great post! We actually do all 3 of those.. we support each other 100%

Melissa said...

The little things really do make a huge difference! Unfortunately, they're also easy to lose sight of.

Mamalicious RAOM said...

I love to see people in Hollywood who "beat the odds" by staying married. I have been married 20 years and I agree with everthing he said but I would add be respectful. Of the other persons time, feelings, and needs.

Cindy Gordon said...

Great tips for maintaining marriage! it certainly can be rough!

Rebecca Swenor said...

These are three great things to remember. Communication is key to any relationship. Thanks for sharing,

Heather Jones said...

Its really simple. Its easy to be tested by the people you work with, but having it all together in your marriage to begin with helps make it long lasting.

EmmaT said...

So true. I think my OH needs to work on point 2, and point 1 leaves a lot to be desired!

themommyavenger.com said...

Great advice! I think if everyone were to put their spouse first, marriages would be more successful. I say that meaning that your spouse also has to put you first. If you are both always looking out for each other and caring about the other person's needs first, marriage is easy. But, it can't be one sided at all. That would not work one bit. Marriage is all about being self-less.

Sandy Olsen said...

Those are 3 wise tips that apply to every relationship. Thanks for reminding us.

Paulina @ Color Me Brave said...

Great advice! It is all about the little things.

Marie Moody said...

Very nice Post, but the first thing to a good marriage is being friends first, and then lovers. My husband and I know each other over 25 yrs., and we've been married 15 of those years and we're still on our honeymoon if you catch my drift. Quality time alone with each other is also good, but not too much of it. Me time is very good for both parties. Thanks for your thoughts on the matter. I wish you many happy years together.

Rochkirstin Santos said...

Yeah it's the little conversations that are intimate that matter most. There should be a time in a day (like dinner or before bedtime) that should be for that.

Michele D said...

Great tips for long and loving marriage and I couldn't agree with you more!

Catherine Sargent said...

What a great post. Marriage is hard work but I wouldn't trade a minute of it. I have been married almost 20 years.

Anna Cockayne said...

Great post and awesome advice!

Shelley Zurek -- Still Blonde after all these YEARS said...

Relationships are complicated but for me, a marriage based on a mutual belief in God and love in your heart...that is unbreakable.

Bonnie Gowen said...

Great post. Marriage takes a lot of work sometimes but it's well worth it.

Danielle said...

Let me say marriage is hard so hard in fact I am no longer married but that is a long story. Congrats on finding the recipe to a happy marriage.

MaryJane Tauyan said...

great list! the things that my husband and I does everyday and make sure to hug whenever we can.

Kath Rivera said...

I agree that love is the key to a successful marriage, there should be love, love, love always. I always make sure to say I love you to my husband everyday.